Milf?

Pornsick! Yes drop him. They should be on their bestest behavior this early on and he is showing you that being overly sexual inappropriately is his best. It's also a sign he will expect to get physical sooner and push your boundaries.

Do you see him in person or is this a guy you met online? Online only is easy, you can just block his number no explanation lol. You can be a no call no show. Or you can shoot a text "Hey actually I gotta cancel the plans" then block and don't sweat it, don't let him try to ask why or reschedule just block all that and you rest easy knowing you did cancel.

In person will be trickier, I'd just give a wishy washy BS reason like "I thought about it and just don't think we're that compatible, best of luck!" "I'm not feeling excited about dating, just not interested anymore" etc etc. GASLIGHT GIRLBOSS GATEKEEP let's go it's okay to lie it's okay to protect yourself.

DO NOT TELL HIM THE ACTUAL REASON. Do noooot explain oh it was this comment you made, do noooot do not do not. He will 100% become defensive, think you are overreacting, and try to change your mind and get even more pushy.

Extremely rude imo. Yes, milf ("mother i'd like to fuck") is porn jargon. Rude as fuck to say before a first date.

Thank you so much for your replies and advice. It's super cathartic. It's so much easier for me to apply fds to situations I see and read than it is to my own experiences, I always end up doubting myself. I asked a friend and looked around the internet and all I could find was "milf" used in "positive" ways. I couldn't find any other women expressing how rude and degrading the term is. This world really tries to make you feel crazy for having self respect.

isn't that porn terminology? MILF, DILF, <whateverfetishes>, i genuinely don't know but that's what most porn obsessed dudes refer to

Drop him like it’s hot.

not wrong. to the landfill he goes.

Hello. You are not overreacting. You are socially and culturally socialized to feel that you are overreacting. I've always regretted not listening to my intuition. That gut feeling is telling you something is off. Please listen to it. Women are taught to coddle men's feelings and always make them comfortable by suppressing our gut intuition and feeling. Even from a scientific and physiological perspective, we are the weaker sex so it would make sense to be biologically wired to sense something is that is off. Flip the script. Would you make a joke about him being a DILF if he mentioned getting a sitter for his child? Or would you feel it's a rude and distasteful thing to say to someone you have never met? Don't doubt yourself. Lean into that feeling of being put off. Even if I break it down from an outsider perspective, I can tell you this guy called you a MILF before meeting you. He's already sexualising you and he's not looking for something serious. It's not normal to say something like this to a stranger. I don't know if the internet and online dating has just made men more depraved these days ... Sigh.....

He can't even be bothered to impress you early on. People are usually on their best behavior in the beginning. So the fact that he said this is very concerning. You can block and delete. You don't owe him anything. If you want to,you can first send a text then block and delete before he gets the time to respond. Seriously don't feel bad. You are not the one who is rude. Spend some time reading the fds handbook. It's great with helping navigate these situations.

Throw the man in the trash. Block and delete 💆‍♀️

I’d be put off too. He called you the name of a porn category, he just put you into a porn category, revealing that he watches porn and puts women into porn categories rather than seeing us as people.

How disgusting that not only is milf a pxrn category, but he is using your child and your motherhood to sexualize you. Unacceptable.

Trash

Nah, don't go on the date, he's pornsick.

1 gross. 2 Sexual comment too early. 3 he's sexualizing your motherhood. 4 he's so socially inept that he thought that "joke" would go over well. 5 he's boundary testing. 6 fucking gross. Teach this perv a lesson - block and delete!

He does not see you as a human being. He sees you as a porn category he can act out his fetishes with. Block and delete.