When I was 22 and in university, I briefly dated a 28-year-old. I used to see it as a short, but lovely romance. Now I find the age gap problematic. I read an old journal entry about him. I had asked what his first impression of me was. He said I looked young.
In fact, I have been mistaken multiple times as under 18 well into my twenties.
In my early twenties, I'd say I enjoy dating casually. Never mind the emotional attachment I'd get to men who'd ghost and the sexual assaults and does this count? cases. Now I'm disgusted by those men who were late 20s to late 30s. I'm in that age group now, and I don't see 22-year-old college kids as potential matches.
I think we'd almost all agree that 9-10 years is too big a gap and 1-2 years is acceptable.
What do you queens think about more borderline age gaps? If a man was seemingly HV in other ways, would you be okay with a significant age gap? Or do you have a firm standard that you stick to?
I think I'd be okay with 2-3 years younger or 4-5 years older maximum.