Ladies, what tools do you use to learn boundaries and how to set appropriate ones?
Backstory: my family is a mess, young parents/absent, family history rife with mental illness, child abuse, DV, substance abuse and in the middle of nowhere, low to no social structure.
As an adult, I'm a socially awkward mess. Raised to be a doormat because of my gender, the only parent who had strong opinions is a LVM with all the typical conservative views.
I'm lonely, I want friends and I want a social life. I want to have and be part of a support network with and for other women. Problem is the only friends I was able to make were LV pickmes (except one, fk cancer). I have no trouble making friends, but with putting down appropriate boundaries- saying no to people gives me anxiety because of how I was raised.