FDS women in the wild

Thank you @fsinghi for asking such a great question that I, myself, always ask. It's sadly very hard to find women who don't center men. Many women will show from the jump that they are male-identified while some are sneakier. They'll hide it because they want to be your friend and don't want to be judged by you, but like a predatory LVM, they'll let it slip or allow it to come out to gauge your reaction. Some will then resent you for having standards while some will try to argue with you to think like them because they silently feel guilty for thinking the way they do so they aim to bring you down to their level.

I've cut off a lot of old "friends" that were too male-centered and some of them cut me off because I refused to talk about men all day long or boost their egos up when they'd complain about men that mistreated them and they should've clearly cut off. Finding women who are interesting to talk to, invested in real, supportive freindships and are not competitve with you, over men, is very hard to find.

I agree with other commenters in that you can only try to find groups or activities that have women in them that are FDS-aligned or you can start your own groups with the aim of attracting such women. Outside of doing either, you can only find these women due to pure luck seeing as pick-mes are more of the norm. It's disappointing but true.