Hello amazing women. Everyday I am grateful we have our own space now! Die mad scrotes LoL!
So I am looking for some advice if someone here has already mastered this, or it comes naturally to them. I have an anxious attachment style and have always had trouble letting go of men who are not good for me (even abusive ones).
im dating this man, who is overall nice and not abusive but that’s the lowest of the low of bars as we know. I’ve recently realized that dating him has more of a negative affect on me (upset, anxious) than a positive one because he seems to have an avoidant attachment style and is not able to provide me the level of intimacy I want emotionally. I was smart and have avoided sleeping with him but i still feel emotionally attached to some degree.
I want to detatch from this person
should I fully stop seeing him? is there a way to see him and detatch?
what are some strategies that work for you for detatching?
i want to not think about him, not hurt, not feel anxious, and not have him/my feelings for him hinder me from considering other men as viable options. i basically want to erase/diminish my feelings for him since he has not been able to meet my emotional needs.
i shouldn’t have to communicate my emotional needs right? if it was the right fit it would come naturally for him and his actions and choices would have satisfied me, right?