So to get it out of the way I’m an immigrant in USA, been here a while but it’s important because currently all of my American girlfriends are what you guys would consider pickmieshas
So I matched with a guy I know I shouldn’t be OLD but Im not here to make any excuses as to why I’m on it. We get to talking and right away he invites me to a Park Date. More specifically a walk in the park. I say no I don’t leave my house for park dates (in a state with the lowest rate of covid infections And places are now open at 25% capacity) he says alright he’ll plan a “5 star date” he gets back to me a couple days later and suggests meeting in the park at 8 pm before he takes me out on a surprise. So I call him out and told him told him under no circumstances will I meet him at a park after dark. i Suggest a video chat. We do, conversation is ok. We meet for the date, and I get out of my Uber he greets me and we start walking towards the restaurant (a block away) on the walk over, he starts walking so far ahead of me I get the impression he doesn’t want to be seen with me. I think it’s weird and we get to our table, he tells me he’s in AA and divorced, took 6 years to propose and they divorced after 2 years. So the issue now is : after Our date he FaceTimed me the next day, and during the conversation I gave my opinion on a topic , which so happened to be the opposite of his, and he asked if I was always so argumentative. And it’s been rubbing me the wrong way because I dont think of myself in that way. I have my opinion and you have yours, we don’t have to see eye to eye but we should be able to talk about different opinions, so then my friend said Im mean because I don’t care about his feelings. And because I expect men to pay for the dates etc. and I mentioned the immigration thing because since I’ve moved to America this is the only place I’ve ever been considered “mean” and “sassy” without Going into my past. It takes a lot for me to stand up for myself and set boundaries without feeling guilty.
so now, I’m not really feeling him mostly because he called me argumentative. But tbh I don’t know if I’m actually being mean. Still new to this, what do you guys think? He wanted to do a lunch date but I cancelled because cramps. but I really don’t want to go out with someone who thinks I’m argumentative