My experience on bumble is that the 'men' on there expect the women to do the leading and be the 'man' in the dynamic.
Is this your experience, too?
This is supposed to be a 'feminist' app, but I feel like the marketing went wrong somewhere?
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Agreed. When I was on it, the men didn’t pick up slack
100%. we're still performing all of the emotional labor. i don't have time for it. ask me out or GTFO.
I may be the minority when I say that the guys I match with at Bumble make the effort to date me.
I wouldn't mind initiating but their profiles are so bare that i have no clue what to lead with. And they are so dry..I hate bumble 0/10
I had a guy ask me out on bumble only to expect me to do alll the logistics and planning. Like nah fam.
I can’t say this is my experience since I don’t use dating apps, but this makes me so glad I don’t use dating apps. There’s only LVM on there
I suppose you could also interchange 'lead' with 'chase' or 'pursue'.
Same experience. Passive in all ways except when it came to sex.
Ok so one of my pet peeves with OLD is LVM who don't bother reading my profile. I remember reading in the handbook something about practicing saying no and rejecting men so you get more comfortable with it, and with stating your boundaries. Well, I just made one of my most ruthless unmatches and I have to say: wow. Seems I * still * have SO MUCH NICE GIRL SH*T going on, but nonetheless I took the action and after some definite discomfort, I am feeling SO much better. It really is NOT my responsibility to make excuses for the BS behaviour, low effort nonsense. No person has ANY entitlement to me, my time or energy or heart unless they prove they can honor it! And even then, I STILL get to choose! EDIT to add: I can't quite explain it but i feel... safer...
My neighbour last year kept on showing me guys she matched with and was genuinely excited I was like babes, they haven’t even done shit and are ghosting you after two months of dating for having a child when they knew this from the beginning. they ain’t shit
What exactly do you mean by leading? Do you mean aside from women initiating conversation? I have never used Bumble, so I looked up how to use it in date mode. Women are supposed to lead the conversation if there is a match: https://youtu.be/tXCxelNUexM