I am forever grateful to find this community as it helped me in so many ways after a series of relationships with LVMs and last one being my worst, a narc. in my two year relationship, I was heavily abused emotionally and completely lost myself in that relationship. He came on strong and when things were getting comfortable his mask slipped completely where I was constantly compared to his cheater ex, put down for my career, hobbies, friends and the worst was that he was the forever victim in all of this and nothing was ever his fault while I was never enough to him.
He broke me to pieces and I have never been the same since. I've been in therapy and while the journey was rough and still is, I am in a place where I completely recognize what is not right for me. I am better with boundaries, recognizing red flags and walking away when necessary. I cut off all relationships; love interest or friends that don't benefit my life and am working hard to love myself and recognize my worth.
Although I know I am progressing and improving strictly for myself and my happiness; the journey is really lonely. I've been on dates and actually got into a relationship but it only lasted 3 months as he turned out to be a LVM and sadly all of the date potentials showed red flags or I quickly learned they were not a good fit for me.
After so many fails on finding a good man I am really lost. I know FDS reminds us that we don't need a man to fulfill our lives but I am a human who also strives for sincere connection and I do hope to settle down as I am in my late 20's. At times I doubt myself when I know I never should that maybe I am not enough to receive that sincere love from anyone.
I wanted to ask how our FDS family overcame being single in late 20's and not being able to find genuine love. Any advice and experiences are welcomed and thank you again for helping me in my journey of finding myself, and healing.