If we date a guy who is much poorer than us, there is the chance that he or his family members will try to leech off you. A guy who is struggling financially will also probably refuse to pay for dates or just pay for some cheap dates.
As for men who are much wealthier than us, most of them either stick to women from their social class or date women attractive enough to be seen as trophy SOs. Even if they are open to dating women who are much less wealthier than them, chances are they they are looking for women they can financially control or their families will look down upon you.
I don't date down.
I started out with nothing and made it to reasonable financial security (a good job, a paid-off small piece of land and tiny house on it and (just over) six-figure-savings) at 33. I've worked hard and made sacrifices for that.
If a man - especially a non-minority man and/or a man who didn't start out with nothing - can't accomplish that at the same age despite having every privilege and opportunity society grants him for having a penis, he is a loser. I am not going to risk all I have accomplished or waste my time on a man like that.
That being said, I'd much rather date a man who worked for his financial security like I did than a rich heir or privileged trust fund baby who hasn't earned a cent of what he has himself.
You should never date a man below your caliber, I never went to jail so I will never date an ex inmate, unless you stabbed a pedophile for hurting your kid or anyone elses kid you care about I don't want you.
I don't drink except occasional red wine, I never get drunk so I don't want to asociate with people like that.
Never ever date anyone who is not in your own caliber,
He's either in or beyond but never out. Men have a role of being financially stable to secure your bloodline, not to mooch off you and help nurture a kid he conveived with a baby mama.
Upward mobility is key, but make sure you have your own money and skills so you don't depend on them.
Don't ever date down. There's nothing for you down there. You'll have better experiences dating up.
I don’t date down either.
Where I’m at, I need him to be able to match me or be better than me.
He has to have some kind of post-secondary degree (college and higher), and has to be fully employed and making my salary or higher. In addition, he has to be around my age (early to mid 30’s, but he has to be older than me atleast by a few months). In addition, he needs to have no kids, and not a divorcee, or going through a divorce.
Women are notorious for dating up. It doesn't often work out long-term, but most men will cheat on women in their own social class anyway. We pool near the high middle of human "value," in a way that men simply can't, so hypergamy makes sense. Men have a harder time dating up.
You date down if you have a romance fantasy that hasn't been corrected yet.
I tried in my 20s to date a blue-collar guy, and it was a shitshow. I married first husband who was blue-collar, and again a shitshow. They both resented me for having way more education than them, and thus more options and freedom in life. They resented my critical thinking skills, and they very much resented my being a feminist, outspoken, and not conforming to gender norms. TOO DAMN BAD. Not sorry, I refuse to date any man who has just a high school education and who is a blue collar worker. There just isn't enough in common, and my middle class background, plus my egalitarian, feminist outlook just doesn't jibe with their way more conservative, traditional outlooks. Not worth it at all to me.
That said, I also honestly can't imagine dating anyone much richer than me, because the super-rich are very different from the middle class. At my age, 55, I wouldn't relish having to buy a whole new wardrobe, or constantly worry about weight, or do most of the leisure activities the rich enjoy. I don't golf, and I don't particularly care about sailing or fishing. I despise dressing up and partying, and would hate to have to be a hostess or a permanently smiling Stepford wife for a prominent man.
Thanks, I'll stick to middle class men.
Isn't it ill-advised for women to date down because in the event of a divorce, the woman would have to pay the alimony?