So I dated this guy who I've known for a couple years and there was always chemistry among us but I never acted on it nor did he because we were dating other people at the time. Fast forward to now, things were going great until now. Today he asked me if there was a moment we could be together for a bit and I texted him yes but it has to be quick because I'm on a tight schedule. He ended up texting me two hours later because he was in class and I'm like okay whatever next time is fine. This is where it gets juicy.
He then proceeds to tell me "How about a gym date? Of course if both parties agree to it. Because you know I enjoy spending any quality time with you" We've only been dating for two weeks and have gone out on one date....one date. I was flabbergasted. I ended up telling him "Going to the gym isn't a date.....?" he started laughing and tells me "It's just a joke." BOOM. My head was set on fire. I asked him how was that a joke? To explain to me where the joke was? He got deeply offended because he realized I wasn't going to fall for it and send me paragraphs and paragraphs telling me how it's my loss that I lost him, that he is no longer interested in dating me because I'm making him appear to be "Evil" but we can still "chat cordially" I have the lost the inner fire in me, and to PLEASE respect his decision that he doesn't want any romantic relationship with me anymore. Unfortunately he knew about all my past relationships and how emotionally abusive they were to me then told me he's not like them and is offended that I'm treating him in such a way. My feelings were dismissed time and time again by saying "it's just a joke" or calling me dramatic which he also said but in a much "nicer way" by saying I'm blowing things out of proportion. Basically throwing tantrums because he didn't get what he want. But the joke here is that he truly believes I lost HIM.
I'm never trusting a man the way that I trusted him again.
You think you know someone when you don't. Lessons learned.