‘Sex and the soul of a woman‘ by Paula Reinehart is one of my favourite books. I found it incredibly healing, it writes out what is really felt by women when they are used sexually and discarded, left without commitment or security and that is rare. It’s a beautiful book about what a full intimate relationship looks like and how important it is for a man to be brave and mature enough to pursue a woman just for who she is without sexual favour stroking his ego. I highly recommend, especially if feeling down.
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"it writes out what is really felt by women when they are used sexually and discarded"
Society ignores and invalidates this topic. It's normalised abuse. It should be talked about as a baseline.
There was a sort of financial protection called breach of promise and a man could be sued for promising marriage kids and a life together then not following through on his responsibility.
A woman may have used this financial compensation for therapy but women today cannot even do that.
There's zero compensation for emotional abuse, and physical is only recognised in courts.
It is written by a Christian. It’s not a book to guilt people about sex. It’s a book about the pain felt by women, how we made to feel safe loved and protected. it also discusses how a man is made to move beyond himself for the sake of another (his wife and family). How men who don’t take the brave leap into a full commitment tend to incomplete lives, lost and without purpose. How women were built to feel, and not be deadened on the inside. That it’s part of our beauty as women to feel and love. I think it’s healing and if there is fear that the book is there to tell people their pain is from not following rules it’s not. I don’t think anyone would find the book triggering, it’s an acknowledgment of women being made to feel deeply, and that women were made with a birthright to be valued. It talks about how men were made to be brave enough to put himself all the way ‘out there’ without any ego stoking or sexual favour to show He is strong enough to be good enough for a woman. I shared this book because there was something beautiful and true that touched me, it was very healing for me in a hard time. It felt like something was written out that I feel inside that doesn’t get acknowledged culturally. I recommmend giving it a try I don’t think it’s what people fear, it’s beautiful.
“Recapture Your Heart's Truest Longings. Deep in her heart, every woman longs for a man to see her beauty and cherish it. We long to be pursued and courted, and to make love to someone who truly loves us for keeps. Yet today, 'healthy and normal' implies giving ourselves sexually with no expectation of depth, intimacy, or commitment. We're expected to handle our relationships with men with no jealousy when they're threatened, no fear of their ending, and no grief when they do. The proof of our equality with men has become our ability to flatline a broken heart. ”
Is it a Christian based book?
I'm going to check it out after I'm done with a workbook I'm going through right now, it sounds like something that will help me on my own healing journey. Thank you.