Okay I know I sound arrogant with the title of a “public figure” but I don’t know how else to refer to it. I’m essentially an influencer and have endured the worst rape and death threats for standing up for women online on multiple social media platforms. I also got an essay from a man who insidiously wrote in every single insult against my appearance that I’ve ever received from people during my time on social media, compiled in one horrifying document and sent it to me. He’s also involved in the dark web and managed to get me banned on several platforms when I had followings into the near millions. All I’ve done is try to speak against misogyny and wanting women to raise their standards and not put up w scrotes. I have major depressive disorder and this has made me near suicidal but I don’t want to let men like this break me. Does anyone have any advice? It’s so easy for Jordan Peterson and Matt Walsh etc bc men can say whatever they want, but as a woman we get nothing but pure abuse. I am currently overseas and cannot see my psychiatrist and I know this is the only place I’d ever come for advice like this.
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I am very sorry you’re dealing with this. I cannot imagine the level of pain and hurt this is bringing you. You are very brave for speaking up and using your platform for good.
I’m not a public figure per se, but I do have my own business, which many people in a certain community know about. Therefore, they know about me.
The best advice I can give you in this situation is to maximize your security. Be very cautious about giving away sensitive information about yourself. Find a lawyer or a law firm that can back you up. Establish a ruthless no tolerance policy for death threats or anything else that might compromise your safety. Ideally be very public about this and show people you are ready to find these people and drag their petty asses to court.
Unfortunately, in the 21st century you are still going to get hate simply by being a woman. And the more successful you become, the more hate you will get.
Please be safe.
I agree with all Supernova said, OP. I would also, if you haven't already, consider taking some upgraded personal safety measures when you are out and about as well as with your home to help you feel safe. Sorry if that sounds obvious. I have a situation where I sadly need to carry self defense items any time I leave the house. I also have other safety measures set up in my environment at work and home. It does help me feel more safe. Also you may be able to find another therapist who works online? Many do now though I know it can be difficult to find someone who is a fit. I don't know your personal situation in terms of your work but you may want to discuss the idea of divesting your personal identity from your public work, if that's possible at this stage. Or, if that isn't an option, backing away from the work that is putting you at risk and finding another way to have an impact. Your safety is most important. I myself am considering this as I move forward with my writing. I want to become an advocate for women and share my writings but I also have a public facing day job and any angry man could find me easily. This makes me lean toward publishing my work anonymously. Please continue to reach out for help if you are feeling suicidal or having dark thoughts. We are here to support you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. ❤️