I was talking to a friend lately, and she mentioned how she always felt, no matter what she did, she would never be on the "attractive side". Of course I always hype her up and I don't really see her as unattractive, but she mentioned how it's about "bone structure" etc and how she got significantly less attention than me. I don't want to invalidate her on that, of course, so I accepted her argument to an extent.
Lately we had a discussion about planning dates. I mentioned to her how a man should put some effort into planning a day, otherwise you would feel like his mom and this is a huge turn-off. She agreed.
I then went ot the toilet and overheard two guys on the next table saying (looking at my friend) "She's a 2 out of 10 and expects that treatment?" I stopped and gave him a dirty look and he said "sorry" and shut up, but when I went back to our table, I felt really bad about it.
What right did they have to rate her like that and imply this?! She doesn't deserve respect just because she doesn't fulfill the ideal? I mean, when a man decides to date her, he decides to date HER, exactly as she is. And it's not like she isn't grooming herself or anything. Yeah, she has short hair and decides to present as less "feminine", but that's her decision. Her last boyfriend accepted her just like that and nobody ever treated her less than because of it, so I don't get the point of these misogynistic men. I feel really bad that men feel so confident in saying these things. And it's not like they respect "pretty" women more or abuse them less or anything (from my own experience).