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I feel like it's bullshit.
I feel that they are very much aware when someone is interested in them. They just don't do anything about it because the attention they are getting is feeding their male ego. They love it. They enjoy being chased without having to do the work. These type of men will take your feelings for granted and use you if you have something that benefits them. The moment you no longer what have what he needs, bye Felicia. on to the next one. A good man will notice the signs & confront the woman about it because he cares about her feelings. But it's something I barely ever hear about.
Disappointed but not surprised. sigh.
Men constantly think that a woman is interested in them even when said woman is simply being polite, or doing her job or minding her own business. More often than not they believe women want them and overestimate themselves, thinking they're hot shit. So how come that now men are pushing this narrative, that they're 'oblivious' and can't see when a woman is genuinely interested? I call bs, another stupid excuse to play themselves as naive and innocent while women have to do the work of showing interest first.
I think this is generally true. I find quite often even men that are not super attractive/aren't getting many offers on dating apps, etc seem to expect women to make most of the effort now.
As usual I think it's a bit of a power play for them, they feel if they hold out long enough they'll get a woman who will chase and cater to them. Sadly they're probably right, all to many women are willing to sacrifice themselves just to say they have a man.
Most men are definitely aware when a woman is interested in them. They just claim they're not aware of this as they don't want to be accused of stringing women along (especially if the guy is already taken).
Listen to the FDS podcast on flirting strategies ladies. We don't chase. We might *register* our interest, and most men can pick up on that. If they can't be bothered to pursue, they are not worth our time.
I find ugly men will project and assume you’re interested, even if you don’t look at them or talk to them BUT then when I try to give signs to someone I am open to, they seem oblivious. I know some men won’t be interested, but it’s starting to feel like some are useless.
I mostly meet men who delude themselves into thinking I’m interested. I’m a business owner and largely only work with women because I got sick of men taking my interest in their work at business networking events and trying to turn meetings into dates. I actually had one guy meet me without his portfolio and say it’d be nicer to just get to know each other first. The audacity of wasting my time like that! Sure there are men who don’t assume the world revolves around their penis but I’m not giving men the benefit of that doubt.
I think some men are genuinely oblivious. Others know, and react based on how intrigued they are by the woman giving signals. If a guy is getting vibes from a girl he’s not attracted to, he may feign obliviousness to avoid unnecessary awkwardness.
This is only true for NEURO-TYPICAL MEN!!!
If my (then unbeknownst to me) Aspie teenage self couldn't figure out when boys were interested in me (even when some tried to make it somewhat obvious), I can believe that SOME men are just as oblivious.
It took me learning about body language (artificially, by reading and watching my classmates flirt with their boyfriends) to finally land a bf... in college!!!
I asked a guy like this once why he didn't say anything if he was aware that I liked him, like why he didn't say anything like "sorry, I don't want to get your hopes up but I only see you as a friend." He said he thought it would hurt me if he confronted me or make the situation worse somehow. I'm pretty sure he just didn't care.