Lately, I have read a lot of social media posts about women questioning if they are being unreasonable for refusing to add their boyfriends to the deeds of their houses, condos, and inherited property. All of them claim to be planning to get married soon but their boyfriend/fiance is pressuring them to put their names on the deeds to their homes. Some have inherited property that would not become a marital asset due to local laws even if they get married.
I'm stunned so many women are questioning themselves on this. These men are pressuring them for this because, at best, they can force the woman to sell it and split the profit and leave. The worst is they may even give them full access to the asset. Marriage is the legal shortcut for sharing assets automatically but it works both ways. Some people are able to set their assets aside from the marriage through pre-nuptial agreements, (every woman needs one.) Marriage is essentially a merging of assets and liabilities. If the man wants rights to your money and property BEFORE getting married, dump him!
Many of the women I read about were giving in because LVM said he's paying into the asset and therefore should benefit from it. He's renting from you. If you feel he should benefit from it in a long-term investment sort of way, figure out something that doesn't give him legal rights to your property's equity.
Even if he's willing to hang out long enough to get married, doesn't mean he isn't planning on robbing you. My 2nd ex-husband was married to me just long enough to get his hands on some of my property and then bailed. He planned it that way.
I can't find the FDS Handbook comments on this because the topic of money and assets are spread out over many subjects. But I recall reading more than once that women need to protect their money and assets carefully when in any stage of a serious relationship with a man. Too many men are content to rob a woman after blinding her with "love." Please be careful and don't fall for this. Until marriage, your money and assets should NEVER be on the table for him to grab. Even when you marry, protect yourself with contracts, trusts and prenups. Most places set aside inheritance from marital assets, but not all. If you stand to inherit anything, make sure your man isn't with you because he's already done the inventory about your future worth. Many low-value men are more than happy to pretend to be HV and just put in the time it takes to wait out your older relatives.
Women are underpaid typically. So when women do well, it's a big win. When women are able to purchase or inherit their own home, it provides the woman with enormous financial stability. Women are also age discriminated against when they reach 40. So the great career a woman has before could evaporate with little explanation later on. This is why it is ever so much more important to carefully guard your assets when you acquire them, and reluctantly share them with a man who may just be scamming you. Your later years in life may be a lot better because you are not fooled into giving away something he has no right to have.
P.S. Sorry for the late edit. I forgot to add that it is important to guard your assets whether married or not. If you preserve your assets for yourself then you will have them later. Maybe you get married, have children then divorce years later. Your assets may be the only thing keeping you from sinking into poverty. They may even be the only thing that makes it possible to leave a bad marriage. They may be the one thing that guarantees you don't live in poverty while elderly. So don't let him get his hands on your assets even if it seems to be for a "good cause" like his business. Protect yourself and the unknown future. The unknown future with men often tends to follow a fairly predictable path.
If you aren't married, don't share anything more valuable than a meal.