I'm on a month-long OLD hiatus (you can see my other post for a insight as to why!) and you lovely queens have pointed me towards the FDS handbook which I've been devouring.
But I have a specific question regarding a type of guy I encountered during my last session on the apps. If I relocate with work I'm going to change my approach to dating with all the awesome advice.
BUT. I don't know how to approach the mansplainer...
This year I honoured a long-term ambition of mine to buy a house to renovate. I got the keys a fortnight ago. :) I run a small business and work full time so I'm self sufficient and say this to merely set the context, not be an ass.
When I have been in the early stages of chatting to guys on OLD, I have been taken back by the tendency of some of them to question my plans/how I'm financing my build etc. It's something I'm excited about so naturally it's come up in early chats. There have been occasions where:
one guy asked me whether I had considered how I would finance such a costly move/what would I do for income if I gave up my job/had I considered all my options? He also made the point that he 'could never afford to do something like that'. It was so patronising
another told me that property management wasn't a 'real job'. He was a doctor, apparently
another asked me how I could afford to do such a costly exercise. Not too bad I guess
A friend of mine who is much more seasoned in property development was given unsolicited advice about how to arrange a room she was styling from someone who, shocker, she hadn't asked
On a similarly depressing note I interacted with someone to arrange a date and shared a photo which had my car in the foreground. The guy made a comment about me clearly being a 'dickhead' for driving a BMW.
Needless to say all these scrotes were dropped like a hot potato but in a try HV queen way, what's the best way to respond to mansplaining and this insecure behaviour. Is it worth addressing or just swiftly blocking and moving on? I wonder if these men have any sense of how this lands but I also realise it's not our frigging job to teach them.
On a separate note, what do you think drives this assholery? With other behaviours I would feel inclined to block straight away but I wonder whether this warrants a different approach. Interested to hear your thoughts.