Being a SAHM is cautioned against by FDS, and with good reason. Many SAHMs leave their marriages and enter into the world of poverty, never to escape. Employers frown on gaps in employment, and staying home to raise our children is no longer seen as a noble cause in this 50/50 world. However, I was a SAHM and I don’t regret it. And looking back, I can see that there is one specific thing I did that worked out immensely in my favor: I got my ECE (early childhood education) units while I was married.
Daycares and preschools are ALWAYS hiring in just about every city in the U.S. And while these jobs aren’t the best paying, many of them offer benefits on having your children in their program while you work there. In my case, I was able to have my twins with me at work, and only had to pay 50% of their normal rate. Daycare is prohibitively expensive, and these savings helped me a ton. But the biggest benefit to me was being able to still spend time with my kids.
It only takes 12 units of ECE to become a preschool teacher or to get hired at just about any daycare, and most community colleges offer these courses online. During my marriage to the Biggest Scrote in the Universe I also completed many prereqs for nursing school. After my divorce, I still had a few to plug away at, and did so very slowly while I worked full time and raised my kids. I am now in my 5th semester of a BSN program and am excited to soon have a well-paying job. I'm also very glad that I never got stuck paying HIM child and spousal support, which would have been the turd sandwich I can possibly imagine.
I’m not posting this as advice, but rather something for consideration. I never should have married my ex, and if I had FDS back then, I never would have given him the time of day. But I am actually very pleased with how things have worked out for me. And to be honest, I am certain that if I had a good career while married, I would have been fired due to endless court motions my ex made, which forced me to take multiple days off work (I was blessed that my boss at the preschool had also divorced a narc, so she was familiar with this tactic. However, had I been fired at the preschool, I would have simply started work at another, as again, they are ALWAYS hiring).