So let the ones who are not invested slip away, and be grateful when they're gone.
Full quote/advice below;
You start dating someone. You like them, and are excited by the idea that this could turn into something meaningful - something you've wanted for a long time.
But...as time goes on, it becomes painfully evident that they're not investing in you or in the building of a relationship with you. You then try to please them into falling for you. Doesn't work.
You might not be able to admit it, but you've placed your entire worth into the palm of their hands and their rejection triggers your worst and deepest fear that you're not worthy.
This is the story of *countless* people of various ages. And it's tragic.
Please. Don't allow someone who isn't showing you signs that they're interested and invested waste your time. Don't entertain your fear that there won't be someone else. There are billions on the planet, so please do not be someone's maybe. EVER.
You can be afraid. Afraid that you won't have your chance. Afraid that all the great ones are taken. But try being your own coach. And by that I mean, recognize your stressful thoughts as just that: stressful thoughts.
Don't try to deny your fears - instead match your fear with knowledge. With wisdom. With faith. This is how one learns to self soothe when they are in the midst of giving all their energy to fearful "what if".