I've been on FDS for over a year now (just migrated from Reddit, thank god that's over) and I've been noticing a particular set of behaviors in men I've dated while applying FDS principles and wanted to share them with you.
When they set up a date, they'll notify you of every little thing they do. I received updates when: they first called the restaurant to make reservations and no one picked up, they called the second time to make reservations, they looked at the menu in advance and decided what they wanted to get, they're looking for places nearby that might be of interest ...etc.
On the date, they send constant messages to let you know where they are at all times. I received several texts on the day of when: they're getting ready to leave the house, when they're in the car, when they're in the parking lot, when they arrived and got a table for us. I had no time to respond to any of these anyway because I was driving to the place myself??
I get how this removes possible ambiguity and may be comforting to someone who is terrified of getting ghosted/stood up. But to me, it just feels like they are asking for a pat on the head for every little action they take. It's not like they were asking me any legitimate questions. Just. constant. updates.
I like to lean back and vet for competency and organization skills, not micromanage them. Anyone encounter men like this?