When I used to be on Reddit regularly, I started to notice on r/breakups that men would often complain about being blindsided by their ex girlfriends. At that time I thought it was unfortunate and cruel, poor men! Right? Today I remembered this subreddit and decided to browse a bit before finding one of those I got blindsided *sobs* posts. The comments are telling! One of them said that his gf of 11 years (yup, you read that right) blindsided and left him, probably for another man. Well no shit Sherlock, after being a forever girlfriend for 11 years she deserves a chance to be happy with someone else. Same thing happened to a man who had a 14 year long relationship. There are many other examples.
If I remember correctly, there was a post on another subreddit asking women why they blindside men and most of the answers were like:
"I told him I was unhappy and he didn't listen"
"He said to all our friends that I blindsided him when in reality I talked to him about getting a divorce a year prior to splitting up"
"I told him he needed to change and be better or else we would break up. Now that it's over I'm the bad guy".
I won't go as far as to say that there aren't some women who blindside with illl intention but honestly, can we blame them when men are like this? Most guys love to play victim, they say their partners didn't cOMmUNIcaTe. When hey get dumped, they say how they totally didn't see it coming! I know men like that in real life too; they spent years stringing along or downright mistreating their partners, but go all surprised pikachu face when said partner decides to leave without explaining anything. She already spent years trying to explain why you should treat her like a human being, you asshole! No wonder why she doesn't have the energy to explain anything now that she's dumping you!
Now whenever I hear some sob story about a man being blindsided, my alarms immediately go off.