While I find our couple-catering society encourages women to be pick-me’s in general, it is really amplified in religion.
I was wondering if there is anyone here who is FDS-aligned but managed to continue having their faith as a part of their lives, what modifications or straight up add/drops had to be incorporated in order to preserve your dignity, or if you had to largely abandon your faith altogether, and/or if you converted to something else.
For example, I was raised Catholic, but had to largely abandon the church to be true to myself and respect female equity. I also fall more libertarian than authoritarian on the political compass (I believe we need some level of social control but that most religions go overboard on it, as well as with their centralization of power which limits transparency), and so the dogma didn’t work for me. I have retained a fair amount of the teachings of Jesus (which I feel ok with), but also still retained enjoyment of the rituals/traditions/pageantry of the church (which still causes some cognitive dissonance).
I never felt truly drawn to switch to an iteration of Christianity less auth like Unitarianism or the American Catholic Church. I am open to something entirely different that is female lead, but so far have only encountered stuff that is too witchy (which feels like a trope at this point when it comes to female lead spirituality) and either is libfem or so radfem it’s separatist, neither of which I fall into.
Would love to hear your own takes on how religion/spirituality (atheists welcome too of course) fits into your life given you have that self-agency FDS encourages, and also actually if you would expect a partner to be an active participant, if you are ambivalent, or if you would actually prefer it to be separate from your relationship. Thanks.