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I'd say that it's probably better to disregard the last point on the first screenshot and most all on the 2nd. If he hasn't made his feelings clear and asked you to be his girlfriend fairly early on, don't bother "communicating".
If he wanted to, he would.
I agree with all this ^ except that I think there are new women here who don’t yet know how to have boundaries and I thought this was a start/is better than them not having any boundaries at all.
@mareetran99 I'm glad you mentioned this because it's something I've noticed in a few posts, but more often in comments that do not reflect FDS at all. It would be great if the mods could make weekly posts of the original handbook (or re-written) to make FDS principles clear. I'm not sure how we are helping women navigate this toxic dating culture if new users aren't aware of what the principles are.
@FoxInFall 💜 you’re right on point though about not communicating too much on what we want/need because “if he wanted to, he would.”
I'm passively back on OLD, and suddenly have a scrotation, as I wrote here before. I'm one who likes a LOT of chat, even for a good month or so, even if men are local. I have one man who drove about an hour and a half to meet me; we had been talking already for a month or so, and it was great. The conversation just continued and flowed really well. I'll be honest: in the past, I would have been super scared in pick-me days to ask this, and I probably could not have really heard the guy over my LOUD inner expectations, wants, and needs over what I thought he *should* say, and what I wanted to hear. Now that I'm older, already been married twice, and I'm post-menopausal, I can really hear what men say. Anything other than enthusiasm to discuss; anything other than enthusiasm for him to make things exclusive; anything other than joy and delight means thank you next, it was fun, time to move on. This is why you have a scrotation, so you don't put all your eggs in one basket, you don't get attached to the first guy who does the bare minimum and is polite. You always want options. Date like a man; it's worth it. And skip out QUICK at the first sign of meh-ness.
@pusskat1 Exactly - don't waste time with meh.