I posted here awhile back about a guy (didn't really know him well enough to pin down if he was HLM or LVM) who popped back into my DMs after a long time asking to come to my city and go with me to an exhibit. He had been pretty flakey because of a demanding new job shift, and most ladies commented (reasonably so!) that it seemed like he was orbiting hoping for casual sex. I strongly considered deleting and blocking, but I ended up letting him come to visit (I'm not gonna lie... I was crazy curious!! I wanted to know what the actual intentions were for popping back into my life like that).
At first, it seemed like maybe the 'hoovering looking for casual sex' read of him was on point; while he paid for dinner and drinks and seemed invested in making the visit fun and impressive to me, he was very vocal about how busy he was and at the beginning of the weekend, was intentionally dropping major, major (I mean, VERY major) hints that he prioritized his work first and didn't desire a relationship. So, the 'casual sex' theory was looking pretty strong. When he said these things, I didn't really give much reaction and would just say things like "it's good that you're focused on building your career" and I definitely didn't have sex with him, though he was very touchy and obviously wanted that. (The other times we saw each other, more than a year ago, I was WAAAY more PickMe and had sex with him right away and I think he was surprised that I wasn't acting like this anymore).
As the weekend went on, his tune changed dramatically. While still sounding stressed about work, he would start describing himself as "open" to a romantic relationship and would repeat that he "wasn't seeing anybody else." And got even more touchy and PDA-ish (arm around me, kissing, holding me in public) and toward the end of the weekend, had a mate-guarding moment when some random dude asked me for a cigarette and chatted.By the time he left, he was talking eagerly about visiting again, we both had had a great time, and the goodbye was all drawn-out kissing and holding and whatnot. And now, a few days later, he's been texting constantly each day (which before he was a bit slow at) and it's "wish you were here" kinda stuff--- so, you get the idea. It started off cold, got much warmer. And now, he's doing the stuff FDS would describe as pretty high value, planning date ideas, communicating often, etc.While I was processing it, I read through the FDS handbook again to try to think through it. My feeling is to keep him in the rotation, still date others, and just keep vetting on him. I do like him a lot and we're really compatible (interests, lifestyle, personality, etc). And we hadn't seen in other in so, so long before this visit, so I guess it would have been unreasonable to expect him to be *super 100% certain* about being with me before this weekend; he could have been vetting me too. But, it does hurt to know that he entered into the experience seemingly looking for a very brief, temporary "casual sex experience" ...even if his feelings changed over the weekend. Is that LVM behaviour? Or is it HVM behaviour if he was actually vetting me to see if we were really a good match? What would FDS say about a guy with behaviour like this?