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I saw it over and over and over and over again. Friends, family, even strangers. Once they let it slide, just one mistake, everything changed.
While it was one time only, males realize that they broke through the barrier and that nothing stands in their way anymore. They don't have to take responsibility. No consequences. If you set boundaries and he just ignores them once, chances are high, that no matter what, he will try to do it again.
I learned a lot, even though I am still young, I got to know a lot of different males. And I am proud to say, that before meeting my husband, I left every guy who ignored my boundaries right away. No matter how hot he was or how much money or other qualities he had.
Once he disrespected me, I was gone. And it saves my ass right now, because I know my worth and what I want from a relationship. Obviously I am not talking about minor misunderstandings or things you can actually resolve. We all make mistakes. But boundaries aren't there to be ignored. If something is a deal breaker to you, leave.
Today I am far away from home. After 7 years with my husband, I left. I was involved in a car crash several days ago, hospitalized and fearing for the health of my unborn baby. My husband took care of everything, I expected nothing less. He was always a total dream.
So why did I leave?
Yesterday I could finally came back home. My Baby and I are okay so far. My husband took me home, made me a cup of tea and got ready to go out with colleagues.
I clearly told him, that I am okay with him going to dinner with colleagues, but that I am not okay with him going to drink afterwards.
When he texted me, that he will come home a lot later, I packed my things up right away. When he told me, that he went with his colleagues to drink, I got into my car and went to my parents. It was one mistake.
But even if he seems to be a HVM in general, there is no room for another mistake like this. So if I can leave my relationship of 7 years while pregnant, everyone can just not tolerate any disrespect in their relationships. And don't forget to take care of your finances.
I have savings that will make my life comfortable for years until I can work again. I wouldn't know how much more difficult it would be without those! Take care of yourselves, one mistake is one mistake too much!
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