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My biggest regret is having "boyfriends" in my 20s. Don't do it.
Somehow I was socialized growing up (probably in school) that having a "boyfriend" was a desirable thing. It meant you were pretty and special and someone desired you. Wanted to court you and then marry you. The thing is, that's not how men see it. Especially not these days. In their minds, having a "girlfriend" is like a video game achievement that unlocks regular, free sex and half off your rent. Ca-ching!!
When I look at the benefits I got out of having a "boyfriend" in my 20s, I could have gotten those same benefits without the disrespect and nonsense that led to regret and baggage in my 30s by instead having a roommate and some better friends for companionship and helping each other out.
What a waste of my time and distraction these useless "boyfriends" were. I wish I'd applied myself to my studies and joined a women's sports team.
Our grandmas kept many male friends and suitors (not having sex with any of them) until one made a marriage intention clear. Then they could court IF her and her family thought he would be a good choice. None of this wasting the most beautiful and carefree years of your life tied down to some dude with emotional issues and no money lol.
If there was one piece of advise I could give young women, it would be that.
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