Hello Queens!!
It’s Monday and you know what that means….a new week to work on goals!!
It is such a pleasure to have this space and group to hold each other accountable!
For anyone not familiar or needs a refresher below are the ground rules of the thread.
This is a non-judgement free space. We want ppl to feel comfortable sharing what goals they are working on. If commenter feels that a goal someone is working on is too big please provide constructive feedback (no shaming) on how they can improve their goal
Please start a new comment when posting your goal and then ppl reply on to that persons goal. It makes it easier to be able to track it
A new thread will be posted every Monday morning and another new post on Sunday will be “reflections of the past week” where we will discuss the wins, challenges and action plans for Monday. So feel free to comment anytime throughout the week.
Goals can be in any area of your life that you’re wanting to level up. Some examples are health/wellness, career, school, friendships, hobbies etc
I just need to take better care of myself, yet I don't do it. I sabotage myself. I think it's because I don't like my life and I don't want this life. But I'm not sure what I actually want....or too scared to give up financial security at my job to go into the more fulfilling but potentially unsafe unknown. I don't know how to transition and I'm afraid to do it alone, I suppose.
All right ladies. This week I’m focusing on my career, school and finances. 1. Finish practice exams and workbook questions for certification exam. 2. Attend evening study group sessions 3. Attend therapy (My therapist was able to subsidize my cost until I’m at a better financial state aka employed. I’m excited to attend this weeks session) 4. Prepare for job interview- I got an interview offer for a local clinic near my home. It’s contract but pays very well with benefits!! I’m excited as I’m in the process of moving to my dream city so for the time being I can live at home, help my parents and save money and be financially independent 5. Purchase grad outfit- heels & accessories for next weeks convocation!! 6. Update my wish list for all of the investments in myself and things I want to purchase once I get a job!
Here are my goals: 1. I’ve had a hard time moving on from a LVM who hurt me last month. I’m going to commit to not looking at any of his social media this entire week. Out of sight out of mind. 2. I’ve been working too much and am not enjoying my life. I’m going to work less. 3. I got a 7 day gym pass today to try out a new gym. I’m going to go enjoy a yoga class there this week and get some workouts in. 4. I need to buy a steamer so I can eat these Costco dumplings that have been sitting in my freezer. 5. I’m going to get a massage. 6. I’m going to go get my nails done. 7. I’m going to take myself out to a nice dinner.
I've definitely been struggling with my mental health lately and generally feeling so unhappy about my life. I feel pulled toward self-sabotaging ways because I want to numb the pain, but I've been doing inner work all year and I know I can get through. I have healthier coping mechanisms. My goal is to stay focused on my weight loss and to ease up on negative thinking and self-criticism. I've accomplished a lot this year. I still have a long way to go but it's good to celebrate the progress I've made. I will also be leaning into self-care and things that bring me joy.
I just need someone to talk to. I recently closed on a new house in a new town away from my sh*tty abusive ex who used to live a literal stone’s throw from my old house. I don’t get the keys until Dec. I was getting so excited at the thought of a new life, nicer house, nicer neighborhood, nicer school, nicer town, new friends —all away from him.
But…when you have kids with a man you have to legally inform him when you move and can only move within a small area. So I informed him. He just told me he’s following me to the new town which sent me into a panic because it’s a very small town and I won’t be able to hide my new address. This man has given me PTSD, depression, and generally made me want to be unalive. Local family court does not care and gives him whatever he asks for while denigrating me. There is no reason he needs to move. The new town is only a 15 min drive from where he currently lives. It feels creepy and stalkerish but the courts will call it “responsible parenting“ and “he cares about the kids soooo much, aww” (he doesn’t, he absolutely hates children which is one of the many reasons I left him).
There’s absolutely nothing I can do except hope and pray the local housing crisis keeps him out of the new town. It’s very sought after and I only got lucky because the old woman who owned my house died and I bought it and the contents from her son. Pray for me!
More green tea and getting started on dermarolling
I'll just write my weekend plans:
(1) Keep my online lectures running in the background (attendance is weirdly counted despite us being adults close to graduating as doctors and the lectures themselves being recorded), and finish summarizing and memorizing all the guidelines for my exam on Dec 20.✍️
(2) Keep fit! A guy brought a chair for me and was overall v kind during a workshop, and I attribute that to me being just 10% hotter than I was 2 months ago, so I'm super motivated to keep my diet and fitness on track! 🧘♀️
All the ladies here, you all got this!! Let's hit the weekend hard and come back jubilant on Monday 👸