I saw again a case where this woman had to report this guy she was casually seeing for raping her while she was drunk and filming everything. In the main sub we have always discussed safe tips about not sending nudes. Unfortunately men take photos and film women without them knowing and it is also in most cases their boyfriends/husband. I decided to post here some tips for women to avoid this trap (If you have other tips and experiences feel free to share).
1. Never send nudes. It does not matter if he is your husband, boyfriend or whatever. NEVER send them to anyone. If you have already done like many of us who didn’t know better, it’s okay to forgive yourself and as long as your face was not on it, it is not a big deal as there are many nudes on the internet.
2. NEVER let your boyfriend/husband film your sexual activity. If he wants to film is because he wants to see and keep it for a long time. I don’t need to talk about revenge porn here, we all know how this ends.
BUT even if you dont let him film you can still end up on the internet.
We have had some cases of:
-women who slept with man that took pictures of them while they slept;
-men who gave gifts to women (like a clock) containing a hidden camera that would film her;
-women being filmed without their consent and had their videos end up on porn sites;
PLEASE, I BEG YOU. DO NOT TRUST A MAN 100%. you could’ve been with him for a long time and this could still happen. Having your intimacy violated and pictures/videos on the internet can destroy our lives and even end up in suicide. We need to be absolutely aware of the men we are dating. Given this:
if you are seeing a man casually (which is already against FDS rules) you should avoid sleeping with him the entire night. You are just too vulnerable.
Even if he is your boyfriend: If you go to his house, take a look at objects that might contain hidden cameras (this is very tricky l, you might not find them)
if you want to have sex and you trust him at certain level, have sex at your house and don’t let him sleep there.
do not bring a man to your house when you are drunk: if he takes photos or videos you won’t notice. Always make sure his phone is FAR AWAY when you are having sex.
be careful WHERE you have sex. Although it is not possible to know if a place will have a camera or to live in constant paranoia, always be extra careful.
unfortunately nowadays with internet, easy access to camera and porn sick men, we need to be very careful. Not only inside our own houses but also in public places.