3. Schedule an appointment with your OB-GYN or midwife.
4. Take steps to establish a safe support network. [BTR group has a daily support group for women]
5. Stop trying to identify the cause of his abusive behaviors.
Understanding the source of his porn use or anger (shame, trauma, personality disorders, addiction, etc.) doesn’t make a significant difference in how those behaviors affect you. Seeking the source won’t empower you to stop it or heal from the trauma – it only keeps you in harm’s way.
6. Postpone couple therapy until the abusive behavior has stopped.