I got inspired to make this post after having a discussion on ADHD dating yesterday.
A fellow member mentioned how she struggles with rejection sensitivity. In a few of the comments, I mentioned how I overcame said issue when I was young.
Below, is part of a copy/paste comment I made:
Important: I have been with ANOTHER ND man for about 12 YEARS.
NT courtship ”rules” don’t apply here.
I’m a very late diagnosed autistic and ADHD.
I’ve always known I was “off” socially, so I trained myself on how to deal with things like the fear of rejection. All thanks to reading about antics employed by Fraternity Boys.
I trained myself to stop having rejection sensitivity as a teen/young adult. I remember reading as a teen how USian fraternity boys would go to clubs and ask as many women they could throughout the semester, until they would get over the fear of rejection.
I began doing something similar as a young adult (17-19 years old), and lost my fear of rejection like that. It also helped for other areas (mainly employment). This helped me a lot in facing all the rejection I’d come to face in the work force later in life. I started out practicing this at store and around college. This took over six months, but was still a work in process. If I didn’t keep this skill polished, I’d lose it.
Also, I am not from the mainland USA. Where I am from, 18 is the drinking age so most social gatherings had alcohol.