I live in a VEEEEERY nice suburban home, but my son (who’s almost ten and will begin 4th this fall) does chores. And the older he’ll get, the more chores he will do. Of course, the bulk of the chores he does are chores that pertain to him. For example, the main chores he do are his laundry and his room. I still watch over him to dispense the detergent, but once he’s in middle school all I’m going to do is ensure he’s having clean clothes (eg. monitoring he’s doing it from afar) and in high school he’ll be fending all on his own (if he’s out of clean clothes, not my problem). Other chores around the home, are either done communally, as a team, or by taking turns. By middle school Imma begin to save to get him a car by the time he turns 15. But he must have a job to fund gas, maintenance, and help to pay us insurance. I give him a lot of freedom in terms of movies, TV and books he can consume (he can watch “R” rated films) but he can’t use any social media and his use of electronics is timed and monitored remotely (eg. The YouTube account he views is proctored by me at all times).
I think she’s projecting (esp. the comment about cleaning adult messes). I'm not a parent and even I know that judging other people‘s parenting styles is a sticky topic. I will say that PERSONALLY, doing chores helped me to learn the value of a dollar and not live like a pig. Additionally, I was one of the few in college that actually knew how to do their own laundry. Just sayin’. 🤷🏾♀️
This person's children will grow up to be useless, they won't even know how to fry an egg or start the washing machine... I disagree with her, because I think as a parent, you have to teach your children BASIC life skills, and being able to do household chores correctly is one of them.
As a child who was raised in a bubble and overprotected, don't listen to this "pick me" or whatever she is. Being coddled so much made me very insecure and shy. If I ever have children, I'll teach them to be independent from the start. Also, because I believe that children and teenagers have to help around the house.
Dude...as long as the kids aren't doing maid/butler level chores... they're just contributing to the household. What does she think it's gonna be like when your kids (and I guess her kids if she ever has any) are gonna do when they have roommates or even live by themselves? Just sit back and call you? Lmao what 🥴
When will people just let others parent in their own way. I’ll never understand the need to control another’s parenting. I think these people need to get some hobbies, and find some places in their community that need volunteers. If they were more occupied with their own interests and doing things for others that were of genuine value they would not feel the need to offer unqualified “advice” of zero value on the internet.
I don't understand why they assume the kids are being require to clean up the parentls messes. Wouldn't you assume they were just being held accountable for their own messes and doing dishes a fair amount? This person is imagining slave labor and it's hilarious.
Some people always jump to the worst conclusion. They aren’t happy unless they have something to complain about. It literally makes them feel good to complain, start arguments, and insult. When I brought this up to one woman who was doing it she said “I’m just discussing things. I like to have discourse”. Lol. I replied that what she considered discussion & discourse other considered trolling, argumentative, and rude. She still didn’t get it - which led me to believe they enjoy the attention they get from being so negative!
I live in a VEEEEERY nice suburban home, but my son (who’s almost ten and will begin 4th this fall) does chores. And the older he’ll get, the more chores he will do. Of course, the bulk of the chores he does are chores that pertain to him. For example, the main chores he do are his laundry and his room. I still watch over him to dispense the detergent, but once he’s in middle school all I’m going to do is ensure he’s having clean clothes (eg. monitoring he’s doing it from afar) and in high school he’ll be fending all on his own (if he’s out of clean clothes, not my problem). Other chores around the home, are either done communally, as a team, or by taking turns. By middle school Imma begin to save to get him a car by the time he turns 15. But he must have a job to fund gas, maintenance, and help to pay us insurance. I give him a lot of freedom in terms of movies, TV and books he can consume (he can watch “R” rated films) but he can’t use any social media and his use of electronics is timed and monitored remotely (eg. The YouTube account he views is proctored by me at all times).
I wish I had parents like you that made the sons participate in housechores.
I think she’s projecting (esp. the comment about cleaning adult messes). I'm not a parent and even I know that judging other people‘s parenting styles is a sticky topic. I will say that PERSONALLY, doing chores helped me to learn the value of a dollar and not live like a pig. Additionally, I was one of the few in college that actually knew how to do their own laundry. Just sayin’. 🤷🏾♀️
This person's children will grow up to be useless, they won't even know how to fry an egg or start the washing machine... I disagree with her, because I think as a parent, you have to teach your children BASIC life skills, and being able to do household chores correctly is one of them.
As a child who was raised in a bubble and overprotected, don't listen to this "pick me" or whatever she is. Being coddled so much made me very insecure and shy. If I ever have children, I'll teach them to be independent from the start. Also, because I believe that children and teenagers have to help around the house.
Dude...as long as the kids aren't doing maid/butler level chores... they're just contributing to the household. What does she think it's gonna be like when your kids (and I guess her kids if she ever has any) are gonna do when they have roommates or even live by themselves? Just sit back and call you? Lmao what 🥴
So if this person isn't teaching their kids responsibility... What are they teaching them then?
Someone’s privilege is showing. They lost me at “I’m glad my husband and I” no one cares. Mind your own crotch goblins.
Exactly. Lol…but apparently I said something that hit a nerve.
When will people just let others parent in their own way. I’ll never understand the need to control another’s parenting. I think these people need to get some hobbies, and find some places in their community that need volunteers. If they were more occupied with their own interests and doing things for others that were of genuine value they would not feel the need to offer unqualified “advice” of zero value on the internet.