Sooo I know I’ve read several posts about leveling up, vetting friends and cutting those off who aren’t serving us in the name of FDS.
Typically, I operate in a no nonsense type of manner when it comes to anyone. I’ve removed folks from my life such as friends, family, men, etc. that were draining or toxic in any way.
Lately, I’ve become increasingly aware of the nature of my current friendships with other women in my life. For some reason, it makes me sad to feel like I need to end friendships with people who have occupied spaces in my life for so long. I know it’s for the better but how do you overcome that feeling of guilt or sadness surrounding friendship break-ups? Also, I self- reflect often to ensure I’m not overreacting.
For example, I recently realized that my BFF is an over-sharer. It’s no surprise she gossips because she also gossips to me often and I’ve participated in gossiping with her as well (full transparency). After spending time with her recently, I noticed that she can be messy and tends to share information that I have told her in confidence. I don‘t believe she does it intentionally but rather does it so much that she doesn’t realize she’s doing so. We had a conversation and I told her exactly how I felt and it’s concluded to me feeling like I cannot trust her with any information.
Lastly, I have other friends who I feel don’t reciprocate in many ways. I value my friendships with others, therefore I’ll go out of my way to help or support in any way but I don’t feel like others do the same for me. For example, I have friends who did not wish me a happy birthday or tend to forget my birthday often. Birthdays are a huge thing for me but then I question if it’s serious enough to end a friendship…
Overall, a huge part of me wants to just end things with these lingering friends. I just want to make sure I am doing the right thing because I do cherish my friendships.