So I came across two TikToks that I think would interest all of you. I haven't posted on this forum for quite a while and for that, I apologize, but your girl has been BUSY! 😁With that out of the way, I present you part 1:
It's exhausting hearing this young woman agreeing about the coffee date being a good first date (🙄), however I am so glad she caught these random men gossiping and defending their stances that a woman has to accept coffee as a first date because the risks are too high otherwise. These men also agree that she must have an amazing credit score in order for them to take her out (huh????), has to have her own place, AND her own car, to justify going out on a date with her. Please listen to the weirdo at the end of part 2 and how he wasn't able to get a house in his own name, and that he had to rely on his wife's good credit score to get said house. Embarrassing.
So it got me thinking and why I need to make this thread to give warning to the men out there who seem too interested or worried about your financial situation. I'm sure we've all heard of stories about women who got stood up or ghosted or had the men literally walk out on the date upon hearing her job title, annual salary, that she's in between living situations, so on so forth. I am of the agreement that if a woman's life is unstable, especially in a financial way, that she should hold off on dating until she can get her ducks in a row first and foremost. However, if a man has all these "She has to be a major girlboss for me to be attracted to her" kind of standards, please look at that as a red flag. 🚩🚩🚩
This is the man who cannot be a provider to his wife and their children, and look to his own wife to pull that type of weight for all of them. Not only does he expect her to be the epitome of femininity when it comes to her looks, submissiveness, and skills in the homemaking arena, but he also needs her to be Wonder Woman who's got energy left over to run a highly stressful career and making a lot of money per year at the same time. And we all know this is a major scam that many of us have fallen into once or twice in our lives before discovering FDS. He is not a good guy who is your feminist ally because he thinks going 50/50 is the way to be; he's just swindling you!
So if he's asking a little too many questions about your finances, your job, what you make, etc, pull a ghost and block him. I promise you that there are men out there who don't give this much weight into a woman's financial situation when he himself makes bank and can reassure her that he can help her out in a pinch if need be. You deserve to rest and be cherished, pampered, and cared for. You already do so much (almost too much!) as a woman living in this modern society, the least you could do is give yourself a break and be with a man who has enough money to give you some cushion.