I went on a speed dating event last night with a friend (in Liverpool, England) and thought I would report back on how I was applying some FDS greatness as well as a 'I am the prize' mentality.
Younger me might have felt the need to give these guys the benefit of the doubt or gloss over some shadiness in a bid to be liked, but here's who I spotted and vetted immediately:
A good looking guy in his 40s sat down and immediately complained about the cost of a glass of wine in the Hilton (where the event was). My gut yelled 'mean with money mean with love'
A confident and well heeled guy sat and asked me about the pay in my sector/whether it's high! (I work for charities) I I clapped back by making him aware of the 7% disparity in pay between his sector and mine and the level of responsibility involved in working at a senior level in charities. He soon shut up
Someone (albeit with a wicked sense of humour) invaded my personal space at the bar by trying to hug me, lean in close to me and buy me drinks. I politely but firmly brushed him off
A couple of the guys bristled and made comments about me ordering a glass of champagne for myself at the bar. Refer to point one
I hazard a guess that at least 4 of my 'dates' asked me my age. In retrospect WTF!
So in summary, whilst it was a disappointing selection there was a shift in my attitude in terms of me approaching this with an 'I'm the prize' mentality and not second guessing my 'no' tick. That in itself is miles from where I was a few years ago where I would have wanted to be liked.
It's also a really interesting exercise in seeing what people volunteer about themselves off the bat. People always reveal themselves.
Hope your Friday nights were all golden and free of scrotes x x