One of my old screenshots from Reddit...unfortunately I missed the user name--claim it if you want to!
Anyway, this was one of the many posts that both kind of blew my mind but made me go, "ah yes, there it is" like I knew somehow, deep down, this was the case.
Not to toot my own horn, but I had always thought I was pretty (got compliments all the time as a kid and teen) and I was quite baffled and hurt, to be honest, when I barely had any male attention when I went away to college apart from a few one-off weirdos..and I really had been looking forward to dating. Needless to say, I was always clean, well groomed, and nicely dressed.
Now I read this post and I think, is it because I wasn't dressing like a runway model, porn star, or drag queen all the time? When in doubt titties out? I tried to ignore it and focus on my work and studies, but this definitely nudged me towards pickme behavior in my early to mid twenties, which of course got me more attention, but the absolute worst kind.
So the question is this: are men truly this "visually dumb" and brain fried from porn they can't tell what an attractive woman looks like if she doesn't have all "signifiers" they're accustomed with Instathots, OF, or Pornhub, or is this a meta patriarchal strategy to make more pickmes by deliberately ignoring us if we're not a complete doormat and/or putting up a neon light that we're DTF?
NB: For additional context, I went to a single sex religious high school where dating, or even seeing boys on a regular basis, wasn't exactly an option.