So now with this whole Amber Heard and Johnny Depp situation in the media, a lot of people are starting conversations about DV. A lot of those people are men...
When in history have men ever been this excited about a DV case?
Men will use this case for eons to come, shouting over women and denying statistics to proclaim that "men are victims too!!!" (And then probably procede to go make memes about the DV victims).
Now here comes the controversial part. Do I believe young boys and men can be victims of abuse (narcissistic/borderline abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse...) sure. But at what point do we stop calling a man 2x the size and strength of his "attacker" a victim? My partner's father recently claimed his ex hit him.... this ex was a woman 35 years his junior, that he"imported" from a 3rd world country and shower with money and gifts in return for sex. So if she was hitting him, that begs the question why he did nothing to stop it. Why he kept sending her money. Why he didn't tell her to leave when she was living with him temporarily and living off his money...
I hate to say it but I think the truth is probably the other way around. Men love using vulnerable women. Perhaps he took it too far and she slapped him? Perhaps he threarened resources knowing she was 100% dependent on him? I don't know, but all I know is that what he told me is not the full truth.
This system is built by and for men with the explicit intent to use women. How is it possible that a man with more physical strength, financial power and the resources of a patriarchal foreigner hating government behind him is the victim of a petite woman who is completely dependent on him? Was he scared for his life like so many women victims are? Did he know going to the police would do nothing but embolden the perpetrator, like so many women do?
Honestly, i'm wary of any male who claims to be a victim of abuse - often they're projecting and turn out to be the abuser.
So what do you think ladies? Am I a bad person for not falling for the "male victim" narrative?