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It's weird that someone would be sitting and telling their gf/bf what they find attractive in the first place. The answer should be them.
Not blaming her but there’s wisdom in “don’t ask something if you can’t handle the answer”. She needs to next him super quick and move on!
It doesn’t seem like she can’t handle the answer. It’s good she knows the truth.
Yea my ex asked me what my type was and I was like you aren’t going to like my answer. He proceeded to bully it out of me and when I told him he started crying :/ of course this was a manipulative tactic but he obviously didn’t like to hear it
I remember talking about this on FDS Reddit but essentially, men operate on a scarcity level and purposefully go out of their way to date people they are only minimally or barely attracted to (even outright disgust in some severe cases) because they strongly believe that there's really no other women out there that he perceives as way up the food chain who would want him. And he's right, of course, but not because he's "such a nice guy", but because he's a fucking asshole deep down. But anyway.
I think this is why we should ask men what their exes looked like, or what their previous crushes look like, to get a feel for their type. Yeah, scratch that, don't ask about exes, but definitely ask about crushes, especially the ones that he never got to date. THOSE are who he wants, deep down.
Men live for the pain. Lmao.
To have access to free pussy and emotional/domestic labour with zero effort on his part. Men will fuck women they hate, LVM will use her body to masturbate into while he imagines a woman he would prefer to fuck.
It’s horrible bc we as women would never do such a thing, but males think differently, are socialised differently. They are entitled to women’s bodies and servitude.
Men are insane, basically.
Let me guess… their advice is “just communicate” 😂😂
No doubt. Communicate so he can gaslight you and keep using your body!
That's so insulting, geez. If I was dating a guy who only filled some of my preferences, I'm not going to tell him about the ones he doesn't fill. It's basic respect?? I bet this is some type of subtle neg. Like, 'You're not even my type so be grateful I picked you' or something.
She should tell him that if he likes those women so much, he should try to date them. And then block and delete.
I'm convinced that scrotes look for women to date that they're not attracted to on purpose - just so that they can dehumanise them and treat them badly. If they don't see you as a person in the first place, I guess they don't need to respect you.
It's definitely a neg.
One scrote even tried this with me on a first date. I was still a naive idiot then but even I got out of there after that. We were talking about our types and preferences and he starts to describe how his dream girl should look... and it was nothing like me, the woman sitting right in front of him who he was on a date with. He basically described a petite, subservient Asian woman straight from Anime/Porn induced fantasies while I am a tall European. Our relationship would probably have consisted of him using me for free labor and sex while furiously wanking to hentai as soon as I leave the room.
Ugh, I'm sorry you went on a date with that scrote. It's great that you left him in the dust though! The patriarchy does enough to try to undermine women and make us feel inadequate and bad about ourselves. We don't need a random scrote to do that too. I feel like negs like this are a precursor to future psychological abuse.
Did we had the same NVX?!
Asking because I’m ALSO tall, yet his TRUE DEAMGIRLS are also petite Asians.
one relationship I didn’t know until about 3 years in that I wasn’t his type at all. Everything he described about his type was opposite of me down to body type and hair color. Also found out he really hates people of my race and looks down on us
another couple ones they had claimed to not have a type but they would cheat with and/or end up with a certain type over and over again.
is it weird that I don’t want to date a guy who says he “doesn’t have a type” now? I have an ideal type and so I have a very hard time believing anyone doesn’t have an ideal way they would want their partner to look.
i dunno, I wonder how a scrote treats his dream woman. i doubt he would suddenly stop being a scrote but I do wonder how that plays out.
i’ve been a dream girl for several scrotes - men who’ve left their forever girlfriends for a sliver of a chance with me. they still will gaslight & manipulate me and act dogshit; they’ll just be baffled that it doesn’t work.
Whenever you have an “honest” conversation with a guy like this, and he explains how you’re not his ideal type, you should be ready to go into great detail, ad nauseum about how you like the exact opposite of him. Get really into it and even have pictures or point out in public the gorgeous man who’s the exact opposite of what he is. When he gets upset, just say innocently, “But I thought we were being honest with each other and that this little talk would bring us closer together.” He’ll shut up after that. Men need sexual competition to commit, and a guy who’s confident enough to to tell you he doesn’t like you in a veiled way doesn’t feel enough sexual competition from other men to respect you. Remember, men do not love. They can only respect, and when a guy puts you down in any way, he’s lost that respect for you. You cannot talk to him about respect. You have to SHOW him thru your actions. And how I’d show him in this situation is I’d be making a big deal about men who look nothing like him.
Tbh I should’ve done that after my ex told me that he prefers big butts.
what sub was this? and it’s important for us black women to vet.
thank you. are you able to send the link? i can’t find it
Could be just triangulation instead where LVM pit women of difference races against each other.
My ex was like that. He always made me feel loved until I learned that I wasn’t his ideal body type. He told me that if I had a bigger butt, he wouldn’t have watched porn and that he would be more attracted to me. It’s such a mess up thing to do to someone.
They always want a bigger butt, and then expect the waist to not grow as well
Exactly. When I told him how would he feel if I made comments like that to him, he said that it wouldn’t bother him bc it’s something that can be fixed. It’s only messed up if he’s commenting on something that can’t be fixed….
I’ve had to get off Reddit especially the relationship advice subs. I’m sure people would come for me because majority of my answers would be to dump them but it started to piss me off how little respect women had for themselves and how they’re constantly being told to stick it out or communicate and other bs. One thing I’ve learned is that once someone is his type and shows interest, it rarely ends up well for the woman who isn’t his type.