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You shouldn’t be responsible for having to tell a man he said/did something to hurt you. The whole male “be direct” bullshit was designed to exempt them from the responsibility of having emotional intelligence and developing their intuitive abilities. Just another way men benefit from heterosexual relationships, by putting more emotional labor on women.
I’ve learned to never be direct with men about this stuff because they just use it to turn the situation back around on you, blaming you. “But but but you…!”
If a man says/does something hurtful, I allow him time to read my emotions and apologize, or I just leave without explanation if he can’t step it up.
And you’re also making it easier for them to hide their lies. Telling a man who he did wrong is like telling him he failed his Exam and here are the answers to it. Block and delete when they hurt you.
I have learned that telling them how they made you feel is useless. They know, they don't care. Better just to state " I don't accept this kind of behavior, I'm leaving". Scrotes' abuse will only ever increase once they start.
i dont make myself responsible for mans behavior. But it is becoming a huge issue for me cutting contact with men that think to make it my responsibility. A lot of men deserve to be ghosted.
They love it when you tell them what they did wrong because then it makes them feel like you were ruminating and obsessing. It gives men a rise when they know how deeply it impacted you. It’s better for them not to know so they don’t get the satisfaction . It’s the not knowing that drives them nuts 😂
I wish I could upvote this a million times. So true. "JuSt cOmMuNiCaTe" is one of the biggest lies patriarchy has managed to spread, unfortunately.