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I’ve noticed something on this platform that I’d like to address and I’d also like to ask everyone a question.
What are you looking for?
Seriously, I don’t think this has truly been a consideration on here. Sure, we talk about desirable traits of a HVM, but what do you WANT? A man being HV is the bare minimum. The rest is your choice. Do you want to travel with him often? Do you want a man who wants a family? Do you want a man who’s artistic? Do you like a man who is urban or from the country? Do you observe any religion that you want your partner to also observe? Do you want him to be a hopeless romantic and write you poetry? We can always say “He’s a high value man because he has a great job, is consistent, spoils me, and is faithful” but that’s only the start. The nuances are where the true fun and beauty of relationships lies. I just want you all to consider exactly what you want beyond the minimum standards and expectations. Knowing what you want is the first step to attaining it. Don’t give up on the whispered desires of your heart.
One of the biggest things I learned in my large break out of dating is that the things I always thought I wanted in a partner were things I wanted reflected from myself. I love poetry; he doesn't have to. I love art; he doesn't need to paint. Like sure he needs to be able to handle conversations about these things when I talk about them and have an appreciation for what I care about, but in the end my wants and passions are only mine.
Some of my biggest failures and worse dudes spawned from me thinking I had a "type." You will cut corners in accepting bad things for the sake of keeping this "type" that you put on a pedestal. It will not end well.
My best relationships were men who surprised me and were able to open up my eyes to new things that I hadn't considered before.
As I start dating again, I'm curious to see what comes my way.
Wanting a family and similar religious values... those are non negotiables and are bare minimum requirements for them to even get their foot in the door with you.
I don't think it matters too much. High value men are gonna find ways to keep their relationships with the women they love fun and beautiful. If he knows you like poetry, he's gonna figure out creative ways that have to do with poetry to make you happy. He'll do whatever he can to cater a life around your preferences. People can get caught up on extraneous things like physical type, job industry, or love languages. Yes those things can say a lot about you, but I think that's still dealbreaker territory. For example, if I refuse to date doctors because of how busy they are, then a dermatologist with regular business hours (m-f, 9-5) who doesn't do overtime isn't necessarily off the table, because even though he's a dr, the busy-ness I'm concerned about is not an issue. On the other hand, if I ONLY date Dr's, there's no guarantee I'll be happy because not all doctors have the same character, values, schedule, or even expertise. Or with physical type, if you ONLY want 6'0" blond, blue-eyed men, but find yourself attracted to a (high value) man who is not any of those physical things, are you gonna reject him because of that? Another example would be only dating men who make $400k+/yr because you want 5 star vacations 3x/yr and that's how much he needs to make to comfortably achieve that. What if you meet a guy who only makes $200k/yr BUT his family owns a luxury travel company so he can travel for free whenever and wherever he wants as often as he wants? I think my point is to examine the deeper reasons you have for such specific preferences and focus on that, instead. To reiterate my point, a high value man already embodies your standards but will adapt to your tastes, so let him.
Honestly for women to not be abused by men, and FDS principles are better than any other dating advice out there.
R/Blackpillwomen was really good though.