It seems like every time I read an article about sex from a mainstream publication there's an author falling all over herself to reassure the male half of the population that penis size is irrelevant or minimal in a woman's sexual pleasure. "Dick size doesn't matter!" they exclaim. "Really and truly!" (second only to their other favorite topic, "Women totally don't need to orgasm!")

Biiiiiitch, speak for yourself, because, um, YES the fuck it does and YES the fuck I do. Why is this even a thing I have to defend?

Where's the ladies writing sex columns who can unapologetically break their dick preferences down to a science? Where are the women having crygasms 80% of the time they have sex?

I have so many questions about the women who write these articles.

Can you hear yourself, sis?

Are you unable to get published unless you print these lies?

Are you sure dick size doesn't matter or have you never found a penis with the size and shape to internally stimulate you properly?

Are you sure you don't need to orgasm or have you never been with a man who's patient enough to help you figure it out consistently?

Are you claiming literally any dick'll do ya?

It seems fairly obvious to anyone who has had a PIV induced or assisted orgasm that they're missing out. Maybe it's because only 18% of women have ever orgasmed through vaginal penetration and so are equally uninitiated.

The question I have is.....why have we all accepted the inability to orgasm through PIV sex as inevitable?

Is it literally physically impossible for most women to orgasm through PIV sex or is this just one more item in a long list of things women have been conditioned to compromise on unquestioningly?

My theory as to why a lot of women can’t orgasm from PIV sex is that the dudes’ dick size and shape ain’t cutting it, but we’re never allowed to admit that to ourselves because men keep cutting us off when we try to assert ourselves on this issue.

When we've brought this topic up on the subreddit, the removed comments are FILLED with men telling us all about how we're ridiculous and that women can orgasm from something as small as a pinky finger.

Sure I can cum from a tiny penis (really all you need is clitoral stimulation) but the quality and intensity of the orgasm from a tiny dick vs a thickie that feels like it was hand crafted by god and ribbed for her pleasure is not 👏even 👏 close👏 bromies.

“Dick size doesn’t matter” is one big cope that men keep pressuring women to buy into to virtue signal that we are low maintenance while ultimately denying ourselves aspects of pleasure we could otherwise experience if we were just brutally honest about what we like in dicks and looked for that. Penis size AND shape matters a lot for women’s orgasm ability. It is NOT the same as men having a preference for boob or booty size - women will literally not be able to orgasm during PIV sex with some dicks.

That's not to say that bigger is automatically better.

For example, I once dated a guy with an absolute anaconda, but it curved so severely to his left it made sex very uncomfortable and outright painful at times. He was porn sick, so I suspect his curving issues were from Peyronie’s disease, which happens when men beat their dick so ferociously they develop internal scar tissue that makes it excessively curve.

On the other hand, I dated a guy who’s penis was smaller and less girthy than the guy mentioned above, but it had a slight upward curve. It was amazing, because it naturally pressed against my G-Spot.

I learned from my doctor that vaginas and cervixes can be naturally curved internally too, so if both you and your partner are curving in a different direction that shit will NEVER feel good. But, if it curves in the same direction, maybe you would find men with curved dicks absolutely amazing.

So the good news for men here is that penis preferences can go in either direction. It varies what the optimal dick size and shape is from woman to woman.

This is decidedly *not* the same as saying penis size doesn't matter. It DOES matter, but there are a wide variety of acceptable dicks because there are a wide variety of vaginas. There is a lid for every pot and an optimal and suboptimal range for every woman. Something ancient Indians knew but somehow has become a lost art in the modern era.

So let's settle this once and for all.


There's no reason for women to spend forever "making it work" and never seeking out thicker, longer, and uncut pastures because we've not developed the language to eyeball a dick and say "No thanks, that just won't do".

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