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What is Female Dating Strategy (aka FDS)?

What is the Goal of FDS?

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What is Female Dating Strategy (aka FDS)?

 

 We are a collective of women from all walks of life committed to developing, creating, and implementing strategies to take control of our lives and narratives and live a life of true empowerment. 

 

What is the Goal of FDS?

 FDS' goal is to deconstruct toxic and self sabotaging cultural narratives that inhibit women from living their best lives and entering relationships that truly benefit them. We believe in promoting self advocacy, discarding victim narratives, and serving ourselves and future children. 

 

What is your Methodology?

Simple, maximum female benefit. We seek to locate and define current cultural problems in dating and relationships and create concrete, actionable strategies to maximize our happiness and health while minimizing overall risk. We believe the collective mind is stronger than the individual, and that dating strategy is best gleaned from the real experiences of women around the world. We center our methods in brutal realism about men and our current cultural climate, not aspirational (but often impractical) ideology. Each of our recommended strategies is weighed by overall risk vs reward based on real world lived experience and available data to recommend the best course of action.

 

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6 Core Principles

01

bE a hIGH vALUE wOMAN

A high value woman is a woman who doesn't revolve her life around men. She has her own career, hobbies, and a great social life that fulfills her emotional needs, so if she does welcome a man in her life, he better be amazing. A high value woman also doesn't romanticize men's true nature, therefore she's cautious around them and wants them to prove themselves to her before she gets emotionally attached.

03

mOST mEN  ARE NOT OF VALUE TO YOU

The majority of the advances you receive from men are not of any value, because the majority of them are from men who only want to use you for sex. Many men are sex-driven, low effort, and entitled. However, there are also men out there who can be amazing boyfriends and husbands who know how to be a man and how to take care of you in all ways.

05

MAKE HIM INVEST BEFORE SEX

Don't have sex before commitment has been established (if you're looking for a relationship) or before he has demonstrated value and investment (if you're looking for FWBs). If a man is really into you and sees you as girlfriend material, he will commit to you in two months (or three months max). If you're looking to have a dependable FWB, you must still require investment from him so he provides you the respect and fun times that you want.

02

lET MEN CHASE YOU

A man’s role is to be the pursuer, the one to convince you that he’s the right man for you. As a woman, you don’t have to prove yourself to him. He either sees your value or he doesn’t. The only thing that’s within your control is working on becoming your best self.

04

RUTHLESSLY EVALUATE MEN

We do ourselves and humanity no favors allowing men to exhibit subpar behavior and being rewarded with our attention. Thus, be ruthless in cutting off men who add no value to your life (happiness, emotional security, financial).

06

GENEROUS MEN ARE NON-NEGOTIABLE

While we believe in having your own career and making your own money, a man still has to add financial value to your life and make you feel like he can take care of you. This means not splitting the bill and not dating financially challenged men.