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I have a friend that I met about 3 years ago. She married a man from Pakistan and recently brought him to the states (they met online. He even somehow found her fathers number to try and contact him). She has visited him before. She has she wanted to divorce him because he was cheating on her. She went to Pakistan to try and divorce him but came back and said they're still married. I think her parents might have had something to do with it because they have said to her she's over 30 and that's the best she can do. No other man will propose (disgusting I know).
She came over to my house last year for a friendsgiving dinner with my other friend, her husband and 2 of my mom's friends. She works as a C.O at a prison and I can't imagine what she has to deal with. The thing is, she can be a bit over the top. She curses a lot, and says things that you just don't say about your job and what goes on when you go over someone's home for the first time. My mom, her friends, and my other friends husband were uncomfortable.
Later on after they left, my friends husband offered her a ride home. She had her husband on video and they were all talking. The husband mentions when he comes here, he wants to drive me and my other friend around. He says I'll kidnap them ( he said it jokingly). My friends husband did not find that funny and neither did his wife. They said why would you say something like that, it's not a joke you can casually make etc. My friend didn't say anything to defend us at all.
A few months ago, her husband arrives but clearly she's unhappy because he doesn't do shit around the house. He lives with her family. She posts about what she cooks for him because he's a body builder. Even when she's sick, she has to basically drag him to the kitchen to help. When she posts photos, you can clearly see she's not happy.
Recently she messaged my friend and I and said she would love to meet up. We're not comfortable with this, because we don't know if it will be just the 3 of us, or if she'll surprise us and bring her husband. Her other friends from what I hear have met him. We are the only 2 who haven't and do not want to meet him.
How can we tell her we're not comfortable without offending her? How could we meet a man who comes from a remote village and has never traveled? Clearly he has okd fashioned views about women.