We often talk about how social media use can be a red flag with men but I wanted to make a general post to ask your opinions on your own use.
I think we are all aware that whether it is dating apps, social media, media in general, women are the “product”. We are always objectified, filtered, edited, angled in certain sexualized poses etc. And some of you may also be aware of studies that document how constant sexualized images of women and girls and being bombarded with these affects our mental health - some of you may have experienced this.
So with these in mind I do wonder what your opinions are on using apps that constantly expose us to sexualized and altered images of women and girls? And do your opinions match your actions?
I do wish we moved to a world where the mainstream saw this behavior as trashy and men using it as not just trashy but also a red flag (they are the consumers not the product. Not only do they not have to worry about being objectified they are the ones objectifying women and there are complicated and indirect but undeniable links to violence here. Objectifying something is the first step to justifying violence. Recommend watching “killing us softly” by Jean Killbourne on YouTube).
Personally I stopped using social media a while back. I keep an account on FB just because I fear that I may want to reach out to a pat friend one day and be unable to. But I have no activity on it and I try to not scroll aimlessly on it.
Curious about everyone’s thoughts. I know there may be valid arguments about promoting business on there but often I don’t think they are honest about a) how much the promotion is actually bringing b) how much activity on the apps is actually spent on business and how much on scrolling through images, if then of women