So I met this guy who is well put together who has a couple friends who are woman. Maybe it’s my insecurities but every time I’ve had a man who’s a friend he has tried to make a move on me if I’m single, hence why I don’t have any male friends anymore. He told one of the reasons he left his ex was because she would get jealous he was hanging out with them.
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Women usually put up with a lot of shit from men. Who knows what kind of repeated boundary violation and inappropriate conduct he had with these female “friends” for her to get “jealous”. Jealous for him probably meant her putting up reasonable boundaries. There is always two people involved in a conflict. If he only blames his ex without acknowledging his own role in it it’s a red flag.
Men tell often will let it slip how they will treat you or how the relationship will go. My ex told me he valued freedom in the relationship and that his ex girlfriends felt unreasonably neglected and complained about not getting enough attention. Well guess why ended my relationship? For the same reason.
The fact that he mentioned it out loud tells me this guy is a Narc. He wants you to prove you are "different" from his ex and he's real excited to get you roped into his Narc harem and triangulate you with any woman who lets the game go on.
Block, delete, ignore. I'd read up on Narc harems and triangulation to get the full scope.
I don't bother with male friends because every single male "friend" I ever had, just wanted to get in my pants. I hold men up to the same standard i.e. I expect them not to have female friends as well. This is not to say that a man can't have female acquaintances like female co-workers but a man with one or more close female friends is a red flag IMO.
Men cannot be friends with women without having ulterior motives.
This is bright red flag.
Block, delete and move on.
I heard this saying somewhere online about male/female "friendships", and I think it rings true:
Women, for the most part, are friends with only the men they are not attracted to.
Men, for the most part, are friends with only the women they are attracted to.
It does make me feel insecure and ill at ease.
There is a guy I think I like, but I had to block his FB because it was triggering. He does appear to be single in real life and online, but he has a bunch of pictures where he has his arm around a woman (the woman is not the same in every picture). Ironically one of the women was a bride of some other man. I don't know why some men do this. Maybe they actually can't get women in real life but they think that by having pictures with women, it makes them appear that they're a catch to other women. Or, maybe he's not as much of a gentleman as I thought he was. I hate how jealous I feel right now.
But it's also so obvious, when men never interacted with any woman ever. They're so awkward. That's why I prefer men with sisters tbh.