I've seen a few dating advice people come up in my feed and talk about how people in general, but typically women (since that's the type of dating advice content I consume), would do well to understand what sorts of men they tend to appeal to in the dating world, and go for them. For example, if you attract a lot of teachers, go for those and less finance bros, etc.
What do you think? I guess it sounds somewhat reasonable at first but then I'm like...what if I think the men I appeal to suck? I don't think these people are saying like "If you keep attracting misogynistic basement dwellers, go for them" but at the same time, I think I have a hard time knowing how to apply that sort of advice without falling into the pick-me hole of now just doing dumb shit to appeal to men I think might like me, or not feeling bad about myself if the 'type' I attract maybe isn't the one I find most appealing. I do think it's reasonable to recognize that if I have a particular look, if I like particular interests and hobies, etc. there's probably going to be particular 'types' of men that I appeal to more. I think I'm just getting lost in how I am supposed to be using that to an advantage, or even understanding how to improve myself into attracting the type I might prefer more. Like I said, I just don't want to get stuck in the hole of pandering.
Men will offer their dick to anyone, there's no point deciphering their criteria.
That being said, it's strategic to know the guys who are attracted to you so you can avoid them, if you aren't interested. For example, 55-66 y.o. men love me, but I'm young enough to be their daughter. I want nothing to do with them, but they can be useful sometimes.
That would mean that all men of a certain group are attracted to a similar type of woman and that's just stupid. Not all teachers/finance bros/guys who play tennis as a hobby/whatever are attracted to the same type of woman.
I'm not saying that there aren't certain types of men we attract more than others. Men have preferences, too, but that's a lot more complex than saying "finance bros who play tennis like blonde women who do X, so I will dye my hair and do X every day to attract them". That's pickmeism. Maybe you'll get one to fuck you that way (but men would fuck basically everyone given the chance). It's not a basis for a relationship.
It’s irrelevant tbh. If you’re a HVW pretty much every man will be attracted to you in some capacity. The only thing that matters is what YOU are attracted to because you’ll have to wake up to his face and smell. You need to pick a man who you can tolerate even when he acts like males typically do. If you can still be attracted to him beyond his male nature, that’s a good sign. Never settle.
Here’s the thing, I know I attract gamers and otakus should comb through the haystack and find a hidden gem? Hell no! I hate those types of men to the core.
I wasted far too much of my time sifting through shit and depravity that it’s no longer worth it to find that hidden gem.
Expand your horizons and date outside what you know you can pull in.