I've seen a few dating advice people come up in my feed and talk about how people in general, but typically women (since that's the type of dating advice content I consume), would do well to understand what sorts of men they tend to appeal to in the dating world, and go for them. For example, if you attract a lot of teachers, go for those and less finance bros, etc.
What do you think? I guess it sounds somewhat reasonable at first but then I'm like...what if I think the men I appeal to suck? I don't think these people are saying like "If you keep attracting misogynistic basement dwellers, go for them" but at the same time, I think I have a hard time knowing how to apply that sort of advice without falling into the pick-me hole of now just doing dumb shit to appeal to men I think might like me, or not feeling bad about myself if the 'type' I attract maybe isn't the one I find most appealing. I do think it's reasonable to recognize that if I have a particular look, if I like particular interests and hobies, etc. there's probably going to be particular 'types' of men that I appeal to more. I think I'm just getting lost in how I am supposed to be using that to an advantage, or even understanding how to improve myself into attracting the type I might prefer more. Like I said, I just don't want to get stuck in the hole of pandering.
It’s irrelevant tbh. If you’re a HVW pretty much every man will be attracted to you in some capacity. The only thing that matters is what YOU are attracted to because you’ll have to wake up to his face and smell. You need to pick a man who you can tolerate even when he acts like males typically do. If you can still be attracted to him beyond his male nature, that’s a good sign. Never settle.