For the past two years, I've been the one organizing Galentines day for me and two of my friends. My other friend would bring up different places, but I would mostly come up with the itinerary. We've had really great times, and it's definitely a lot more fulfilling than celebrating Valentine's Day with my ex LVM.
However, do I always have to bring up Galentines day every year? I'm sick of being the one to initiate things and planning out stuff. Tbh, I do want to celebrate with them but, I don't want to be the one to bring it up. I kind of just want to celebrate it by myself, ordering my favorite foods and just enjoying my own company. Does me not rescuing out to my friends make me selfish?
Selfish? No, not if they never initiate to begin with for you. Have a day to yourself. Part of having a friendship is being able to depend on the other person to initiate. It's a give/receive relationship, as all are. Maybe you want it more than they do, or they're just perfectly happy with letting you organize it and they do enjoy it still - just not enough to start the conversation or really do much to help with itinerary. I'd mention what you're doing so they aren't blindsided in expecting you to organize it again, though. Just say what you're thinking of doing for the day and see what they say.
Nah, you're good 👍
Have a blast, sis. They will find a way to enjoy too.