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Any ladies have any experience with men actually approaching you at the gym? Would love to know the deets if so especially if you ended up going on a date and how it turned out.
I recently resumed my lifting regimen and have been pleasantly surprised by the number of attractive men at my gym. I've been getting plenty of looks but I'm curious about the chances of a man actually approaching me. My sense is that any man who is single but actually a good guy would not want to bother a woman during her workout. I feel like this is sadly the broader explanation for why many of us only get approached by the most heinous men in public...they are the ones who are shameless and have no emotional intelligence yet think so highly of themselves, etc.
I'm certainly not going to approach a man myself but I'll try making eye contact and smiling and see how it goes. Already been doing a bit of that but it's early yet so we'll see. 😁
I feel like men who approach female strangers (be it at a gym or somewhere else) are pickup artists. They probably already approached a lot of women before you.
I personally don’t like being approached at the gym, but have and they…were not good experiences. The most ridiculous by far was when a guy (who kept staring while I was doing my warm up first of all) approached by saying I looked like his sister, he’d been in the country for 8 months but hadn’t met anyone and needed someone to talk to. He also wanted to know what days I work out (I gave him no info and kept it vague). It was an uncomfortable enough encounter that I stopped going to that specific gym location for a month…when I go back HE IS THERE. Except I didn’t know that until he literally followed me out to my car saying how he’d been coming everyday waiting for me and wanted my number. Never even asked for my name which I thought was funny in an absurd way.
I can't stand men approaching me at the gym.
Some people see "going to the gym" as a chance to perform, some see it as a necessity, some see it as self-care, and some feel vulnerable there. Or it can be a mix of these things. When I'm at the gym, I'm very focused on what I'm doing. I have a very busy life and I often go too long without "checking in" with my body and how it's feeling, moving, etc. I go to an all-women gym (thank goodness) but, even there, we don't like being interrupted by strangers. If I were at a mixed-sex gym, I'd be very uptight and not able to focus. Whether we realize it or not, we're in a state of vulnerability when we're at the gym. We're dressed in form-fitting and/or revealing clothes, we're testing our strength and flexibility, and we're getting sweaty and tired. The last thing I need is the idea that I'm on display for some man eyeing me from across the room.
TL;DR: Gyms aren't bars. Don't go there to mix and mingle.
Find a mixed group sport
I hoped to meet a cute guy at the gym. It didn’t happen. If anything, I felt lonelier than if I hadn’t gone at all, so I do sporty activities that force interactions. That’s a way of improving your odds.
No man has ever approached me. The gym is where I look like Sasquatch coming in with my hairy legs that haven’t been shaved for days with frizzy hair flopping around while I workout. I wear raggedy loose clothing that includes an oversized graphic shirt and basketball shorts. I save my fancy gym clothes for special occasions. All my lululemon, Alo yoga, and Nikes are reserved for my hot girl walk with an iced coffee or ice cream in hand.
Also, I train during their women’s only hour, and the gym I frequent has a target audience for geriatric retirees. These are very kind gentle old people who just want to prolong their life by being active.
I’ve only once been checked out by a “gym bro” once as I went to get my groceries from the next plaza over after my workout. We were in the parking lot loading our stuff into the car. This very handsome looking guy (totally my type and age btw), makes eye contact with me. He gave me “the nod”, he was tall, handsome, clean, and fit. I kind of liked it, but then he took a swig out his vape , and I made a “stank face”. Well….yeah…that’s as close I’ll get to letting any guy near me.
i had a guy i dated from my gym tell me, "I thought you were taken or married," presumably because i wasn't passing out my phone number like candy to all of the goers. the only men who say anything to me are married. good luck!
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