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I find that with women, most of them don’t regret the choices they made when it comes to rejecting a guy no matter how good he seemed to be.
With me, at 21 my parents tried to set me up with a family friend in hopes of us getting married. I was against the idea from the beginning. He was six years older than me and had a designing certificate from community college. He was not working in his field, had no desire to improve his state of living, and was content with doing manual labour. At the time, I was finishing up college and thinking about applying to grad school, but idk what I wanted for myself. I felt like he was someone that did not meet my expectations. I felt like there was so much to life than marriage. It’s been over ten years and I don’t regret my decision about not marrying him. Instead, I look back and realized that I did have an opportunity to get married, but it was at a wrong time. I went on to do the things that I wanted. Now, I want something serious, but not with him.
Today, I had a conversation with a male acquaintance and our friend group and he got out of relationship with a very young girl. Omg same song and dance. For context, she’s 20 and he’s in his late 20’s. He bought a condo for her near her college so they could live together. She’s graduating in about a few years. They dated for a year, and she backed out of moving in with him and ultimately broke up with him last minute (good for her). The hilarious part is that he’s stuck with a condo that is 2 hours away from work. His old place used to be 15 minutes away. He kept saying shit like, she would regret his offer when she was older. He really painted me a scene of her eventual doom and misery. I truly believed that he was serious about her since he bought a condo near her school. However, from experience I don’t think that’s the case. If anything, I think she’ll look back at this moment just like me, and not regret anything. I feel as though she’ll look back and acknowledged that he wanted something serious from her, but not feel any regret for not wanting anything serious with him.
Anyways, has anyone on FDS had a similar experience like where you had an opportunity to settle down when you were really young, but chose not to, due to certain reasons? Did you ever regret your decisions?
“Anyways, has anyone on FDS had a similar experience like where you had an opportunity to settle down when you were really young, but chose not to, due to certain reasons?”
Yes. There were two men from my 20s who wanted to marry me. They were professionally successful, but I found them physically repulsive. They are both married and have young children now; I imagine their wives are happy to have financially comfortable lives, so good for them, I guess?
“Did you ever regret your decisions?”
Nope! Every time I think about these two men, I thank my lucky stars I didn’t end up married to them. The lack of physical attraction would have been intolerable for me.
Individuate from the influence of mom and dad. You don't need them to vet a partner for you and they probably just want grandchildren to have something to show off to other elders. Colleges are filled with scrotes and will usually be women's first adult scrote experience. After the age of 25 when the frontal lobe develops most women I guarantee you regretted interactions with most men. She dodged a bullet because cohabitation before marriage is proven by studies to lead to poor relationship outcomes because imo the male moving in with a woman is a big benefit for him and a hidden commitment for her. Men benefit and get to enjoy literally a wife experience with no strings. Any man living with you who has intense access must be husband status otherwise it's a roommate that gets access to free sex without commitment.