Recently, I dmed someone on Instagram after I interacted with him on a different social media platform. He's new to my city and I reached out to him letting him know I'd love to meet up and be friends in real life. He said he'd might take me up on the offer and I responded back to reach out to me on the other social media platform (TikTok) because I'm not a fan of Instagram. Point is, he knows where and how to contact me and I think he's very attractive. I've seen a lot of attractive men but none with a semi-decent non fuck boy personality.
I'm trying to stick true to the FDS principles and also common sense. I do not know this man. Only what I briefly saw and interacted with him on TikTok. I'm trying not to put him on a pedestal and when I was in my early 20s, I would immediately have 20 fantasies ready by now. Now that I'm a bit older, I am getting better at stopping those fantasies and really telling myself that it's just a guy that I do not know.
I find myself devoting mental energy to him which I do not want and checking to see if he's check my most recent Instagram message. Would love any and all tips for not obsessing over a guy not only for this situation but all situations going forward!