This is something that I think is a forgotten topic. Maybe not, I don't know. I'm very ornery about politics. I'm someone who does not like to discuss it with anyone unless I'm on the same page. If I sense that they're not on the same page, I'd rather not talk about it at all. Many people become insane when they try to discuss it, and act like you're the devil incarnate if you don't agree with them, and I simply don't have the patience for that kind of behavior. I struggle with the idea of being with someone if I feel fearful of expressing any difference of political opinion with them. I'd rather not discuss politics at all with a person, but I feel that it would be hard to be in a relationship with someone without politics rearing its ugly head.
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Eventually you will have to talk politics with someone, it's an important part of compatibility. But until you start to think you want to keep them around you don't have to put up with the discussion.
I like to let people show me who they really are and the best way to do that is to let them talk themselves out. If he started in on politics and I was already looking for a way out then I'd say something that I knew would piss him off and then excuse myself from the date when he started to get loud. If I agreed with it I might engage in the discussion but usually the more silent I am the more insane shit comes out.
I find men rarely want to have a discussion about politics, they either want me to affirm their shit beliefs or they want to hear their own opinions coming out of my mouth. With women, I can have an actual discussion (most of the time) even if we disagree.
If he dislikes the alphabet thugs, believes trans women are con men, and doesn't agree with misogynistic comments, but actually sees me as a human being who happens to be a woman worthy or respect and have her autonomy honered then I don't care about his political beliefs.
On (or before) date one, I mention 1) my political affiliation and 2) the fact that I do not enjoy discussing politics. I'm not confrontational about it. I just state these facts calmly.
The men who can't abide by my politics or my unwillingness to discuss politics tend to move right on.
You could ask questions about whether he believes in 50/50 and that women have the same rights as men. Helps to qualify men in, but it can cause a shitstorm from low value men.